My grandma told me a story she heard from a TV show.

Brief introduction:

A girl and a boy became lovers since in high school. Their relationship remained smooth and peaceful all the time. Only when they were facing graduation and searching for jobs in the forth year of college did a fight between them burst out. The dispute occurred on the choice of jobs and the girl complained that he could not find a good job which implied that she could not count on him in the future. Another boy existed in the story- a boy once lived as their neigbour and went abroad for some years. He probably loved the girl secretly for a long time but he did not express his love until he went back to see her with a very expensive present. It seems that gift is always a good weapon to seize a girl’s heart. So his dream came true. But the ex seemed to be deeply hurt and he could not survive in emotions without his lovely girlfriend, so he put all the story into the screen and resorted to so-called experts or specialists. Under the persuasion of the experts and hosts, the girl turned back to the ex.

This is the story. Of course, I don't know the exact details, but personally I am very reluctant to hear the result. The whole thing to me is just a joke as well as a coercion. I have too many to discuss:

1.       personal relationship or love affair for most people- except for celebrities- should be private thing, it is nonsense to make it publicized into society. When it becomes publicized, it is inevitable to get criticism and restriction from social conventions. So in this situation, the ex boyfriend was apparantly in a much more superior position than the other two persons. That's why he wanted to get help from the experts. I don't believe an expert in love affair can really change one’s life to a happier circumstance. No expert in this field. Everyone is different and has the right of his own choice. One should be honest to his heart and follow his intuition when he is trying to keep rational in life. If the girl still has love to him, he can win her heart back with his effort. If he can do nothing other than going to TV, he is a coward not a brave man as common people might think, because he can only depend on strong public opinions and other people to do this, not his own power. Correspondingly, the girl was the victim in the show. Under the public persuation, hearing so harsh criticism from public, the result was actually made by other people not by herself. I don't know what she is thinking. If she still had deep love to the ex, of course it was the right decision, but if she did not? She could only yield to the public power at that moment. Otherwise she would be blamed for moral degeneration by society. I believe any other story like this happened in TV will end similarly.

2.       I always hate that people comment on whether the couple match or not. Why talk about others? People should not hear whatever others say. They should have their own judgment and belief on themselves. After all, one lives for himself but not for others. Even if the girl did not want to stay with the ex because of economic problem, it is reasonable in current society. It can also indicate that she actually did not love him so much. If the boy realized this and knew that love does not make sense if only one side has, he probably would never try to rescue the relationship. In this show, the experts and audiences were like invisible killers. They forced the girl to sacrifice her happiness in order to make themselves contented. I do looked down upon the TV show.